One of the toughest challenges that many of you will face on the road to your singing success is the willingness to accept the fact that you’re going to make mistakes.
Whether you’re just starting out, or you’ve logged more than a decade of studio gigs and live performances on the road with several bands, mistakes will happen. Every single singer, singer-songwriter, singing musician, and musical performer is guaranteed to stumble on occasion.
Process for Progress
How you process mistakes so that you can recover is critical to your success and growth as a performer and artist. Some are able to bounce back quickly, yet others want to perform well so badly that they let mistakes eat away at their confidence and sense of self worth.
For some, a missed cue, a flat note, a tongue-tied trip over a lyric, or a technical glitch, can wreck the remainder of their performance. It can even impact future performances as well, depending on the ability to pick up, let go, and move on.
First of all, congratulate yourself right now for your commitment to sharpening your skills and developing the full potential of your unique voice by studying and applying these methods developed by Brett Manning. This gives you a host of rich resources for recovery and development, as well as comfort and confidence that you need in order to be successful and to continue to grow.
The coaching relationship you establish with a Brett Manning certified associate is one vital key to recovery. Your coach can help you learn from your mistakes, as well as help you be better prepared to deal with less than perfect situations and those rough times when things may go wrong.
Share Stumbling Steps
Even something as simple as sharing your missteps and mistakes with others via the forums at SingingSuccess.tv lets you know that you’re not alone. Sometimes just knowing that you’re not the only one that got tongue-tied or went blank singing a song for the hundredth time can help you bounce back and just – get over it. You’ll also learn some tricks for keeping things in perspective, so that you can pick up and move on with grace and humor.
So, how do you handle mistakes? Do you have a tough time bouncing back after making a mistake in a performance, an audition, or even in rehearsal? Once a mistake takes place does it become distracting to the point you start to beat yourself up, and then your focus shifts from your performance to kicking yourself?
Don’t Kick Yourself
One thing to bear in mind is that you likely get thrown by these things because you want to please your audience and not let them down. You also want to do your very best, even show off a little. You might even be a bit of a perfectionist. These are all admirable objectives and traits because you’re seeking the utmost of your highest potential. So, don’t kick yourself for such aspirations.
Take this statement to heart: mistakes are a necessary part of learning. If you don’t take risks, try out new material, face fears and doubts, or work to overcome challenges, you will not grow. If you hold back, play things safe, make excuses, or just go through the motions, that becomes a willful choice to fail or fall short – that’s the worst kind of mistake.
Risk Real Growth
So, risk getting better, bolder, more vulnerable. Sharpen your storytelling skills. Strengthen your voice! Work on developing rapport with your audience. Commit to being a better communicator on stage and in the studio with fellow artists, musicians, performers, crew members, and other support personnel.
When things go wrong, don’t dwell on the slip-up, glitch, or blunder. Shrug it off as best you can, make light of it if you feel it was so obvious that it can’t be dismissed, and then ask yourself a few questions after the show or audition to help you move on and actually benefit from the mistake. Also, remember to hold yourself responsible and avoid blaming others.
Ask + Receive Direction
These simple questions are as follows: is there anything I could have done differently? What can I take away from this situation that will help me next time? What can I learn from this?
Shift + Review
Your view of mistakes requires a key shift in perception and in perspective. Note that each mistake is an opportunity to grow, to learn, and to become a more accomplished performer. For some, that statement is dismissed because it’s viewed as a cliché, while for others it’s discounted as nonsense because mistakes are seen as a sign of weakness, a lack of talent, or a lack of preparation.
But if you ask yourself those three questions, and invite feedback as you share your experience with others, you will gain a healthier perspective and become a more seasoned, accomplished performer.
Some mistakes will happen because you are not prepared. Sometimes things go wrong because you’re not well-rested or you or an accompanist might not be feeling well. Whatever the reason for the mistake, it is vital to bounce back and move on, a little wiser, more forgiving, and more positive.
If a major mistake has occurred that has been especially hurtful or embarrassing, give yourself time to recover as you analyze the circumstances surround the mistake or recurring issue. Take corrective measures and invest in extra rehearsal time or additional training.
Maybe a major mistake occurred because you didn’t warm up. In fact, good vocal health is vital to optimum performance as well as recovery. So, do not neglect a proper warm up!
Boost By Booking
Use the programs developed by Brett Manning to help you strengthen and nurture the gift of your unique singing voice. Take time to book studio, skype, or phone sessions with at least two of Brett’s certified associates, to get a well-rounded perspective on your craft and potential. And shore up your confidence and resilience by talking with others in the forums about your experience with learning from mistakes and bouncing back.
Fearlessly Face It
If you ignore your mistakes, you will likely end up failing. By being afraid you’re going to make a mistake, or by avoiding a situation because you stumbled over it the last time, you will cease to grow and learn. You will keep yourself from becoming a better vocalist and stronger performer. You’ll cheat your audience and stifle your fellow performers and support personnel.
On the other hand, if you can learn from your mistakes, then there is every possibility that you’ll bounce back to explore and achieve the full measure of your true singing success.