Handling Your Critics

Sometimes, I feel like a big part of my job is difusing negativity in my students. Too many times someone out there has told you that you can’t sing, you shouldn’t try, or that you’ll never be any good. At times the person telling you this is no other than yourself. I’m a firm believer that this is a bold-faced lie and further more, no one has the right to tell you that. Even as a professional, I don’t have the right to say that to someone. Though I will not tell someone they don’t have what it takes, I’m completely honest and realistic about where a singer starts comparatively to their finish goal. That being said, I’ve taught singers to make dramatic improvements from being self-proclaimed “tone deaf” to matching pitch with no problems. I’ve taught singers with zero self awareness and horrible style to sing tastefully and consciously. I’ve been in the driver’s seat taking someone from a hot mess, to a redeemed voice. I say this not to toot my own horn, but instead as a testament to Brett, his training, and his mentoring over me as a coach. I say this with confidence in our method and in the power of the mind within an individual. Even though I may lead someone to a breakthrough, they are the ones who ascertain and realize it for themselves.

I honestly believe that ANYONE can learn to sing and that NO ONE is truly “tone deaf,” having experieced these problems in students and seen them overcome. No one has the authority to tell someone else that they can’t. No, not everyone is going to be a successful artist. But anyone can improve and see significant progress. I learned this from one of my favorite bloggers, a man named Jon Acuff….Critic’s Math Lesson:

1 negative comment + 1,000,000,000 positive comments = 1 negative comment

Why? Because our words are no more powerful than when they are weilded for ugliness. Compliments and encouragement are powerful, yes, but critical negativity and ugly words seem to linger with us longer. We are all people pleasers on some level. It’s time to look at the Critic’s Math Lesson and realize how ridiculous it is! Criticism that is used to edify is necessary and in the long run can fuel encouragement, but when someone says to you, “You are terrible and should never sing again” or something to that affect, you need to immediately move that into your mental trash folder and move on.

Be confident. Know your worth. Know your potential. I don’t have to meet you or hear you to tell you without a doubt that your potential is UNREAL!!! Trust me. Remember, I’m a professional 😉

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