Confidence is something everyone struggles with on some level. But, it can actually be used to your advantage if you turn the negative self-talk or the daunting fears and doubts into a dare to take action that you can build on step by step, goal by goal. But that’s easier said that done. And that’s the problem. We care to say a lot more than we dare to do.
One of the downfalls for many who attempt to take action is that they stay stuck in the planning phase. I’m guilty of that. Sadly I can get very creative with procrastination and then not taking any action because the plan becomes too complicated or unrealistic.
Driven By Results
We’ve talked about the power of positive thoughts and affirmations. These really truly work best when clear results are generated and real-life connections are drawn. They work when thought patterns change and behaviors begin to generate positive results. Otherwise it’s all a bunch of pretty, perky, pep talk.
In order to grow more confident you need to have in place some form of measuring tool or accountability tracker to reference for positive movement. So it’s critical to engage someone that will hold you accountable as they provide both constructive, critical feedback as well as positive reinforcement as you grow through the motions.
Each Shuffle + Cut Is Your Deal
But you don’t want this individual to be solely responsible for your progress. The ideal individual is someone that will be keep reminding you that you are in control. This person must be someone that’s hard on you because they care and have a strong sense of your potential, passion, personality, and promise.
All feedback you receive from this person must be specific, without exception! Beyond, I liked it or I hated it, you need to hear what specifically they liked or didn’t. Then, you need to ask them what specifically they would like to see or hear. As you receive feedback, it’s then up to you to suggest possible adjustments or directions to take.
You need to look into any training or information that you require. Then, it’s up to you to engage the training, take action, indulge activity, and apply tools that are identified to help you become more confident in your competence and vice-verse.
Inventory Accomplishments + Strengths
One key exercise that serves as an investment in for helping you work through stumbling blocks, fearful plateaus, walls of doubt, and negative behaviors is to do a self-inventory of your strengths and accomplishments.
Set aside time to make a list of fears your have faced, doubts you have dismissed, and positive changes you’ve made, especially the ones that took you by surprise. This becomes a personal primer of promise. It serves as evidence that you can fight through tough times. You can conquer fears and drain doubts of their debilitating despair.
This list should be added to with each new accomplishment. It will serve to remind you of times when you rose above feeling defeated, ineffective; like a failure, and then pressed on to turn things for the better.
From Obstacles To Opportunities
The goal is to get yourself thinking of fears, doubts, and the obstacles they drag with them as challenges to take on, and as opportunities to make you stronger, wiser, and better.
Some of the more obvious examples of such situations might be a fear of heights or swimming or driving. It might be doubting that you could ever get up in front a group of strangers and get through your favorite song. It might be something like improving your vocal range even three or four notes. Only you know what these areas are where you’ve seen tremendous change that beat the odds – relatively speaking.
Once you gain real confidence, fear and doubt truly will become dares to take down and rumors to prove wrong. Your list of accomplishments serves to affirm the fighter in you, the achiever, and the over comer.
Define Your Design
Here’s another exercise that can help with the spirit. It starts out with the belief that you are uniquely, wonderfully designed. As a singer you believe that your voice has unique potential and value. It’s your responsibility to invest in and engage all tools, techniques, training, and experiences that are necessary to define and refine its unique divine design.
Do a self-evaluation of your voice. List its strengths and challenges. Think back to what first prompted you to not only sing but want to sing more, and to sing better. Then, make a list of your goals for developing your unique voice to its fullest potential.
Cross-Reference To Reinforce
The lists created from these two exercises can be cross-referenced to help you endure plateaus that will come, regroup and rebound from the occasional backslide or stumble, and celebrate the strides and stretches that help you stand steady and strong as you sing the gift of life’s song that is yours alone.